Free Advice

India is home for 120 million people, we come from different backgrounds, caste, religion, region, community however we all have one thing in common, we all are experts in giving free advises.

It does not matter whether we know that person or not we like to give our expert opinions to them. People in India like to lecture and go on and on for things about which they have no fucking idea. They don't know the situation in which he or she is, neither they know the background of the problem but then to miraculously they will come up with solutions and not just one but MANY.

Funny part is people giving expert advices don't even follow their own advise when they get into the same situation.
Like its said - "Its always convenient to say than do".

I know every Indian has being on both receiving as well as advising end. People please understand "free ka gyan kisi ko acha nahi lagta". Kindly understand the situation and then speak. I understand that we definitely have good intentions, we want to help others, what i mean is we should be aware of all facts before advising someone .

Also we should never provide free advises to a stranger, colleague or a person with whom we are not that jelled up. Frequently unasked unnecessary advices only bring down our own image in front of that person.

Lets aspire to be the one others look up for valuable advices rather then being a person who speaks a lot and people don't give a dam about whatever he says.

So, No more free advices. Speak wisely. Act promptly.

My Last Supper in Mumbai

I consider myself to be a grown up man. Someone who knows the reality of the world. Someone who can put his emotions aside and judge the situation according to facts and circumstances. But sometimes believing in fantasy is better than being realistic.

I am doing CA internship in Mumbai which is going to end soon and I will be heading back home, my native town. I have a bunch of very special people whom I ll miss a lot. I too like others have made promises with my friends to meet once every year, to go on a vacation with them. However I know all these vows are fantasies, this is the last time after which I won't be seeing most of my bestest best buddies again. Such thoughts are noxious knowing you can't have better friends like you have now, knowing some part of you dies when you part with them.

I wish I could be optimistic like others. Like People who live in present and believes in their future. That way I could also live these last moments, enjoy my last supper rather than thinking about the coming tragedy.

To my friends reading this, I love you all from the bottom of my heart. The time we spend together is the best time of my life. 

No matter the time or distance between us you will stay in my heart forever.

YES you may go

No matter how modern we become, no matter how much western culture we adopt no matter the era, there will always be a difference between a girl and a boy.

Parents are always more worried about safety of a girl child rather than a boy. Girls are always under the radar of the parents.

To go anywhere mall, club, party etc boys just need to inform their parents that they are going out, sometimes not even that. Whereas girls have to take proper permission, have to convince each member of her family to go anywhere, explain each and every detail of the place she is going, report back at time, call them when she reaches or leaves the place she is visiting. 

And if its an Outstation Trip begging starts a MONTH ago...

Asking - "Mom can I go GOA with my friends for 2 days" 

Pleading - " Please dad just this once, all my best friends are going"

Persuade - " You the best mom in the world, please... convince dad na."

Crying - "I never ask anything from you still you say no. That's not fare"

Striking a Deal - "I'll do anything dad, whatever you say"

Question-Answer session - how many boys and girls are going? Where will you stay ? What do your friends do ? Where do they live ?

Assuring - "I’ll be safe, I'll give all my friends numbers also"

Promise - "I'll call you 4 times in a day and will never miss your call"

Holy crap!!! All this melodrama for 2 days trip, all this for a YES. Girls freedom are totally at the mercy of their families as there are so many restrictions and conditions like there has to be one other girl with you all the time, I want her parents number, report everything every place you go on the call, stay away from drinking alcohol, etc. 
Let me tell you, even after putting so much effort the success rate of a YES is only 10%.

Though it sounds extremely hard but usually isn’t. Because girls are super smart species. They take the permission from their parents but change the reason of their outing...

Dating – Going out with Dimple (friend) & office colleagues.

Night Out– I am staying at dimple’s home for group studies.

Party – I will be late today have lots of work at office.

These clever foxes LIE to their parents on frequent basis. Though it’s wrong but I feel it’s sometimes necessary. Because nobody is wrong on their end, parents are right in ensuring the security of their girl and she is also right in wanting to enjoy her life to the fullest. At a stage in life it becomes hard to convince parents and at the same time it’s also hard to resist the temptation.

 This is life nothing is wrong or right. Its the way you look at it.

When do we fail

What is failure ?

Aamir khan , Bill gates, Mark zukenburg are drop outs from colleges, Bharat Ratan master blaster sachin tendulkar failed in 10th class. Do we call them failures!! Why Not ? Why are they any different from other failures. Why do millions dream to be like these failures ?

The question that comes to my mind is when do we fail ?  Thomas Edison invented light bulb after 2000 trials when asked why did he fail 2000 times, he gave a wonderful reply, he said I didn't fail I just found 2000 ways of not lighting a bulb. what I mean to say is we fail when our self consciousness accepts defeat. We all want to pass, we all want rank, we all want to be renounced.  We pray for it, we work hard for clearing exams but why don't we ever ask ourselves "Do I deserve it" " have I done justice to my studies to pass the exams by just studying for clearing exams"

I am a CA student and have met many other students who JUST want to clear exams like me but just one who says 'what is the value of my CA degree if I can't do hedging taught in subject financial management, if I can't do capital structuring, consult people on mergers and acquisitions'. He is the only one who admitted that he deserves to flank in exams. he wants to fails, so that he could do things right next time.

Difference between them and most of us is very simple these people plan for long term and we short term. My aim is to become a CA no plans after that whereas their aim is to grasp knowledge so that it could help them in long term no matter the attempt they take to become CA.

I feel People really fail in their life when they don't introspect themselves and get themselves into wrong streams, when they stop reinventing themselves, when they stop enjoying their work.
Marks can't determine anyones fate, no doubt they are the indicators of knowledge however when a Grade F student considers this F as an stepping stone and takes its positively than they are not a failure, someday with this positive attitude they will achieve more than any other grade A student just like then Aamir, bill gates and many more.

Why don't I fight for things that matter me most

Why do I let things go. Why do i leave things on fate. Why do I think other than marks I don't have to work hard for anything else and everything should come naturally to me otherwise it would be fake. Why cant I make an effort to keep, please, to win over that person who matter a great deal in my life.

I m a person of belief that all things frdship, relationship, love should come naturally to a person. Making someone like u or falling in love with you is betrayal to them and yr ownself becoz u are not like that person who act in that certain way to please the other sex.

Their might be 2 reasons to such belief either you are lazy or you believe in such thing as fate.
Well both the reasons apply to me.

Sadly acting like this, I let go so many dear frds, family and loveones. Each time when someone exits my life I think only if I could have fought for them, if I had demonstrated my feelings towards them, I had showed my intend to be their forever, if only I had made them believe, they could be with me.

Long time has passed some decisions have been good some regretting. However even after so many experiences I still introspect myself, I try to understand where should I fight and where should I let go.

I understand I m human, bond to take wrong decisions but I still want to understand why don't I do what I say and stand for.why do I let the time slip away. Why do I accept defeat easily under harsh circumstanes.

One thing I have learned from my frds and my journey of Mumbai is until u try you can't reach your destiny. Unthing is free in this world, you have to ask for it and work hard for it, to truly have it. Therefore I have promised myself that I will be an active person and wil make every effort to keep that jem of person with me. Also I will not blame the fate for taking that love from my life. I myself is responsible my inactiveness and decisions. From now on I make my own fate or will die trying.

Pursuit of happiness

Somebody is good in academic, somebody in sports, someone is a good orator, others good as leader, care taker, family guy, party maniac, friend.

Everyone is good in something or the other but only few are able to maintain balance between family, friends, studies and curriculum.

Its harder than one think it is to persue desires, to work enormously hard to reach the peak and to give time to loveones, friends and family. Only thinking about managing all this makes me insane. Time is too less to give time to everyone.
One has to set priorities according to the situation, which is a hard exercise in itself as doing so one has to give up being with near and dear ones or give up on ones dreams. Its hard to strike a balance between all.

Sometimes you take that hard decision, sometimes life makes that choice for u.
We all want everything in life, happiness success and fun with no pain, sacrifices. We all know that's not how it works " kuch pane k liya kuch khona padhta hai". Something that we should understand is "humko Kya pana hai" what do we ultimately want from life.

We all face that question at some juncture of our life.
Marks/scores, striving to become the best, working hard in office to acheive excellence get appreciation, recognition is what everyone likes and Desires. However even having that you can be unhappy.

Indra noori being PepsiCo CEO for years recently admitted that balancing her family with work is very hard, she said she had to on many occasions miss her daughters school functions for work. Her job has robbed her personal life, her family time.

Success has no meaning if it at the cost of Loosing friends, getting divorce, ignoring parents. This victory, this success, this trump is worthless without loveones. In trying to achieve our endeavours we missing out other flavours that life has to offer to us or the other way round in enjoying the life we r endangering our future.

That's why as balance diet is important for healthy life a balance life is essential for blissful life. And one should including me rather than making excuses try to strike that balance between work, studies, personal and social life for a happy and contended life.

What's cleverness ?

I am called seedha sadha in my family. I feel offended when they say that becoz in today's world simple people become prey to clever people.
Hard fact but true.

Analyzing myself I think i am smart person but not clever. Reason is I don't know what's cleverness and how does one become clever.

So what do you think is cleverness, chalaak or shatir lomdi ??
Is fooling others makes one clever ? Or getting laid with multiple women, having multiple gf/ bfs, lying to people around you, Will you call such person clever ??

If not him, is a ranker in school or college who is  very strong in academic. Is he clever ?

What does anyone do which makes them clever ??
It tickles the mind isn't it, you are able to judge a person clever or dum through your experience with them but its difficult to actually define cleverness.

After storming myself again and again What I came to the conclusion that the one whom I'll call clever is who is able to get everything out of the other person and they don't know about it. he is a person who has skeptical mind. He'll be able to introspect and take whatever he needs from you for himself without you realizing it. Like deligating a useless work but making it sound like its a hell lot important job and you have been shouldered a big responsibility, a trick to get work properly done by juniors. Now what should one call this cleverness or smartness?

Normally what I have noticed is clever word is used in bit negative sense. You call a scholar, person with good convincing power, leadership skills smart and not clever.
Manmohan Singh is smart but Sonia Gandhi is clever.

If you notice the trademarks of both the words are same. A clever person is also smart but there is a mean, motive or gain in their actions.
If smartness is a talent then cleverness is how to you it. You can be taught how to become smart but not clever that is something that you learn with time and bad experience. I call it bad becoz you will be the cry first and then you will learn through that fall.

I would say In our world its better to be clever than just smart.

Different people have different thinking not many will agree to what I have said that's becoz we all have lived a different life and have different experiences. What might be bad for you might not be for me or what might not be good for you might be for me.
So we all have our own school of thoughts. I would like to know what you think and what is your understanding.